Close up, top view of an Asian toddler girl

Common Bedtime Problems

Common issues include

  • Refuses to go to bed: Establish a good bedtime routine – such as bath, brushing teeth, cuddles into bed, dim lights and story time.
  • Constantly calls out: e.g. “I want a drink,” “I’m hungry.” Firmly refuse or ignore them.
  • Afraid of the dark: Leave a night light on.
  • Wakes during the night: Wait and see if they resettle. If not, give comfort (briefly) and leave. Don’t linger.
Cute little baby girl jumping over the cot

Moving from a cot to a bed

When you chose to do this depends on your situation, but generally occurs between the age of 2–3 years. Sometimes this can also mean moving into their own room for the first time. Either way, it can be a big adjustment for some – although others will just take it in their stride.

Encourage your child to test out the bed, for example try a daytime sleep in it, or do story time there before bed time.

Some tips for the transition

  • Try to involve your child in buying and setting up the ‘big bed.’
  • If you’re toilet training, wait until your child has made some progress with that before moving to the bed.
  • Encourage your child to test out the bed, for example try a daytime sleep in it, or do story time there before bed time.
  • If your child becomes fretful by the change, and you have space, leave both cot and bed together and gently encourage them to choose.
  • Or put a mattress on the floor by your bed, so your child can come and sleep beside you in the same room for comfort if necessary.
  • If you are concerned your child may fall out of the bed, push the bed against a wall or into a corner of the room. You can purchase a kids’ bed rail from bedding stores and some stores that sell baby/toddler equipment.
  • Your child can also use a low profile pillow from the age of 2 years.
  • If you are using a second hand bed, consider purchasing a new mattress. Also check that it is safe and stable.
Mother puts her daughter to sleep and gives bed kisses

Night

5.30pm Dinner (no later or they’ll be too tired to eat).

6.00pm Bath and dress for bed.

6.30pm May join the whole family at the dinner table for a snack or dessert.

7pm (or earlier) Brush teeth. Quiet time in bed – dim lighting, gentle story or soft music.

7.30pm Bedtime (10-12 hours’ sleep).

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